My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. He is/was a porn and sex addict. He has had soooo many emotional affairs, I’ve lost count. He has told me that he cannot stop listing after every woman he sees because woman are pretty. It got to the point, I stopped confronting him. His addiction has lead us down a very dark path of physical and sexual abuse. Seven years ago we separated with the full intent to divorce. He said he was looking for any woman but me. However, God had other plans and I would up canceling 3 divorces. We moved back in together 4 years ago. For the most part it’s been great. He is a changed man. Two years ago he had yet another emotional affair and I found more pornography. I set my foot down! I set boundaries and he didn’t react with violence over them. I had other real women out of our marriage, but pornography was a big issue. To him I was an object sexually. He developed PIED and blamed it on me. Mind you, I keep myself nice. I take time to dress do my make up and I keep myself in shape. I’m in every way his type. He decided I was just too old for him …. We are both the same age in our 40’s). Last October was my breaking point. I said no more porn, no more masturbation and screen accountability to prove it! He agreed immediately. It has been 15 months and I have not received one bad report on Truple. His entire attitude has changed and most days I hardly recognize the man I’m married to. I know nothing is fool proof and if he really wanted to he could get around an app, but his life and actions line up with his words and if I ever have reason to question I can fall back on Truple.
If his behavior has changed, and its consistent, that's a good sign. Keep in mind relapses are normal--even for people "on the right track". The goal is that relapses happen less and less often over time, and that each relapse is shorter and shorter in duration. Of course, some people quit cold turkey. But for most it takes time.
When someone's addiction took hold as a young child, and they have decades of reinforced brain patterns that urge them to view porn whenever their life becomes stressful, that is very rarely overcome in an instant (short of help from a higher power). So don't get discouraged by the occasional relapse as long as it seems like he's still on track, motivated, being honest, etc.
When someone's addiction took hold as a young child, and they have decades of reinforced brain patterns that urge them to view porn whenever their life becomes stressful, that is very rarely overcome in an instant (short of help from a higher power). So don't get discouraged by the occasional relapse as long as it seems like he's still on track, motivated, being honest, etc.
by strider 598d 19h 56m ago