Hello. I am a Missionary with an organization called Cru, and I struggle with pornography and masturbation. I was so wrapped up in my lustful chains of sin, that I did not think that there was a way out. From me breaking off marriage plans with my ex fiance in 2019, I have struggled deeply with pornography, and felt as if it was hard to tell anyone. With accountability, this year in 2023, and Truple helping me, I have been 155 days free from self pleasure and porn!!! In recent months, I have broke that streak, and even fell into it moments ago, but I know there is a way out. Please pray how I can take this more seriously, and that I can choose to not touch myself when I wake up in the morning. I am still trying, but I know there is a way away from this. My goal is to be free from this before me and my new fiance get married in April.
I think it's helpful to think of "maintaining the streak" ...right up until the point you fail! At that point it's better to look back on all the days that you succeeded rather than the one day you weakened!! While accountability can help block on-line triggers, it's more difficult to stop your mind and hands wandering while in bed. Probably the issue will resolve itself when you have a partner but either way discipline yourself to get out of bed immediately on waking: Like a solider on hearing reveille!!
by Revamp 630d 5h 57m ago
There is danger in focusing too much on "streaks". However, I think its helpful to look at streaks like bars on a bar graph. Does each bar get bigger than the last?
Thats one of the ways Truple stories setbacks dashboard shows your streaks, which is pretty valuable.
Another concept is "back in the saddle" time. How long does it take you to *stop* viewing filth and get back on a streak? 30 seconds? 5 minutes? 3 hours? 3 days? a week? Another insight that can be super helpful.
Thats one of the ways Truple stories setbacks dashboard shows your streaks, which is pretty valuable.
Another concept is "back in the saddle" time. How long does it take you to *stop* viewing filth and get back on a streak? 30 seconds? 5 minutes? 3 hours? 3 days? a week? Another insight that can be super helpful.
by strider 629d 13h 53m ago
Keep it up. What you'll find as you continue working at it, is the time between relapses will grow. Eventually you just won't relapse. It can be helpful to see your progress though. Recording setbacks in Truple stories can help you with that. Then you can see that it's roughly once every X weeks that you set back. Then after a few months, it's once every X * 2 weeks, etc. Progression is normally linear with few exceptions, but keep at it and you'll get there.
With regards to marriage--be open with your (future) spouse about it. They can be a huge asset or a huge detriment. It will be difficult for them, but the more they learn about it the more they'll realize it has nothing to do with them. Once they get that, they become a huge asset that can help you tremendously.
Your heart is in the right place. That's the most difficult part. Keep your heart there and you'll win, eventually. It's guaranteed.
With regards to marriage--be open with your (future) spouse about it. They can be a huge asset or a huge detriment. It will be difficult for them, but the more they learn about it the more they'll realize it has nothing to do with them. Once they get that, they become a huge asset that can help you tremendously.
Your heart is in the right place. That's the most difficult part. Keep your heart there and you'll win, eventually. It's guaranteed.
by strider 631d 17h 46m ago