He's been active in his addiction this entire time
#4 by PurpleLily at 12/16/2024, 3:13:08 AM
accountabilitypartnerparentpornographyI found out this is deeper that I thought. He relapsed not long after he started this journey. Was never truly sober. He lies, he fantasizes about other women, he watches sex scenes in shows and movies, he purposefully looks for nudity in shows and movies. This is not all he's doing. He lies constantly even to our pastor. He manipulates constantly. His accountability partner has given up on him and the pastor keeps canceling appointments with him. He commits all 7 of the deadly sins DAILY. He does not care not one bit the impact he has and me and our 3 girls. He's very self centered. He thinks he's God's gift to the world. I've started questioning if God's punishing me. He's extremely awful to me in many many ways. I just want it to stop. I do not have the financial means to leave right now and I'm not going to have them anytime soon. I'm sorry I'm just venting and I just need to get it all out to people that understand.
You're in a really tough position. If he's showing no desire to change, then the future is unlikely to be much different unless he really has a change of heart. The challenge is what will cause that. I've seen faith play a major role in changing people's hearts.
Professional help is always something worth considering in these situations. Good luck. Let us know if there's any way we can help.
Professional help is always something worth considering in these situations. Good luck. Let us know if there's any way we can help.
by strider 57d 19h 17m ago
Unfortunately we've tried professional help for everything (other than the porn since it's a newish discovery) for 4 years collectively of our 6 year marriage. 3.5 was marriage counseling. The counselor tried his best. He could tell he was being manipulated and called him on it many times but he just doesn't change. The individual counselor was in the beginning of our marriage and all he did was lie and manipulate and play victim the entire time. At the end she wanted to talk to both of us and it was discovered he hadn't told not one truth about anything. He swears up and down he doesn't know how to stop lying, Manipulating etc etc. He swears he's trying his absolute best and doesn't know why he can't stop.
by PurpleLily 57d 19h 7m ago