The constant lying is becoming too much. He lied straight to our pastors face this week. And I found out that in order to get his fix he's now watching movies/shows with nudity in them. I can't keep everything from him. This ALL is becoming too much. He has no will power or self discipline in any aspect of life. I can't keep parenting my husband.
The answer to this depends heavily on how much of a "hold" it has on him. If he's been a victim of porn since he was a young boy, and he built habits over decades turning to it to cope with stress/anxiety/depression, then it'll likely take a lot of time.
I'd be more concerned about direction than speed. If he is initiating his recovery, then its just a matter of time until he figures out how to break free from porn. Support him and be patient. However, if he actually has no desire to quit, well then yea... that's problematic.
I'd be more concerned about direction than speed. If he is initiating his recovery, then its just a matter of time until he figures out how to break free from porn. Support him and be patient. However, if he actually has no desire to quit, well then yea... that's problematic.
by strider 101d 12h 44m ago
He lies about everything though. Not just porn. Anything. Little things. Big things. Every day. I honestly have no idea if he actually wants to quit. He says he does but he lies about so much that I honestly have no idea if he's telling the truth about wanting to change or not. I would have a lot more patience if I knew whatever he's telling me is the truth. Relapse or Sobriety. If I could trust him, and trust in what he's telling me.
by PurpleLily 101d 12h 25m ago
Thats a tough position to be in. The only place I've seen to help people change their desires/heart are religions. But most need to hit rock bottom to realize how stupid they've been and then the desire to change grows within them.
by strider 101d 11h 41m ago