Our marriage is struggling. We have gone to the church and done a program to help us with support in my husband getting clean from porn. He has lied multiple times a day about anything and everything. He gaslights me and tries to make it out like I'm crazy and it didn't happen even with proof. Video footage proof. It's exhausting. And so much of his behavior is pointing to he has had a relapse but he just says I'm paranoid and then stonewalls. I would investigate but I'm exhausted I'm 39w pregnant and at this point I just can't spend days investigating for him to tell me the truth. I'm close to getting the kids and leaving. It breaks my heart and I do still love him but I cannot keep being the only one to fight for this marriage. Just looking for advice and support.
Seek God on the whole issue but also specifically on whether to leave him.
I agree with Rachel.
Don't make a rash decision.
Likely better not to leave him.
I agree with Rachel.
Don't make a rash decision.
Likely better not to leave him.
by Robweatherfan 118d 3h 15m ago
I echo the previous comments. Betrayal trauma is no joke. If you haven't connected with a betrayal trauma coach or therapist, please let me know....I know several that I refer to the partners of my clients (I'm a sex and pornography addiction recovery coach)
by digitaladdictionhelp 118d 20h 3m ago
I am very sorry that you are going through all of this. I am praying for peace/strength/wisdom for you and also that God will get a hold of your husband's heart. You definitely need some professional help with this situation from a Pastor or a good biblical counselor. Try to stay in God's word even if just for 15min a day. God bless
by Noahklop 138d 17h 2m ago
Hey. Im 37 weeks pregnant. Kinda in the same boat as you but in a different stage of recovery than yall are. I know how difficult this is especially when pregnant. You are not alone I promise.
Do not leave him. Thats considered a rash decision and you shouldn't be making those at this moment. Just hold on a bit longer.
He needs to see a CSAT. Needs, not should. NEEDS. No ifs, ands, or buts.
He needs to read out of the shadows by Patrick Carnes. His therapist will likely reccomend that he reads it.
You need to read up on Betrayal trauma. I reccomend the book by Michelle Mays. And any books by Stephanie Carnes.
I also highly reccomend for both of you to listen to PBSE podcast. It's on spotify.
This is a process and journey with many ups and downs but I mean it when I say do not make any rash decisions right now.
Best of luck and god bless.
Do not leave him. Thats considered a rash decision and you shouldn't be making those at this moment. Just hold on a bit longer.
He needs to see a CSAT. Needs, not should. NEEDS. No ifs, ands, or buts.
He needs to read out of the shadows by Patrick Carnes. His therapist will likely reccomend that he reads it.
You need to read up on Betrayal trauma. I reccomend the book by Michelle Mays. And any books by Stephanie Carnes.
I also highly reccomend for both of you to listen to PBSE podcast. It's on spotify.
This is a process and journey with many ups and downs but I mean it when I say do not make any rash decisions right now.
Best of luck and god bless.
by Rachel 139d 12h 19m ago