Our marriage is struggling. We have gone to the church and done a program to help us with support in my husband getting clean from porn. He has lied multiple times a day about anything and everything. He gaslights me and tries to make it out like I'm crazy and it didn't happen even with proof. Video footage proof. It's exhausting. And so much of his behavior is pointing to he has had a relapse but he just says I'm paranoid and then stonewalls. I would investigate but I'm exhausted I'm 39w pregnant and at this point I just can't spend days investigating for him to tell me the truth. I'm close to getting the kids and leaving. It breaks my heart and I do still love him but I cannot keep being the only one to fight for this marriage. Just looking for advice and support.
I am very sorry that you are going through all of this. I am praying for peace/strength/wisdom for you and also that God will get a hold of your husband's heart. You definitely need some professional help with this situation from a Pastor or a good biblical counselor. Try to stay in God's word even if just for 15min a day. God bless
by Noahklop 8d 4h 7m ago
Hey. Im 37 weeks pregnant. Kinda in the same boat as you but in a different stage of recovery than yall are. I know how difficult this is especially when pregnant. You are not alone I promise.
Do not leave him. Thats considered a rash decision and you shouldn't be making those at this moment. Just hold on a bit longer.
He needs to see a CSAT. Needs, not should. NEEDS. No ifs, ands, or buts.
He needs to read out of the shadows by Patrick Carnes. His therapist will likely reccomend that he reads it.
You need to read up on Betrayal trauma. I reccomend the book by Michelle Mays. And any books by Stephanie Carnes.
I also highly reccomend for both of you to listen to PBSE podcast. It's on spotify.
This is a process and journey with many ups and downs but I mean it when I say do not make any rash decisions right now.
Best of luck and god bless.
Do not leave him. Thats considered a rash decision and you shouldn't be making those at this moment. Just hold on a bit longer.
He needs to see a CSAT. Needs, not should. NEEDS. No ifs, ands, or buts.
He needs to read out of the shadows by Patrick Carnes. His therapist will likely reccomend that he reads it.
You need to read up on Betrayal trauma. I reccomend the book by Michelle Mays. And any books by Stephanie Carnes.
I also highly reccomend for both of you to listen to PBSE podcast. It's on spotify.
This is a process and journey with many ups and downs but I mean it when I say do not make any rash decisions right now.
Best of luck and god bless.
by Rachel 8d 23h 24m ago